there’s something enchanting about this beach that I cannot bring myself to stay away
“We are, as a species, addicted to story. Even when the body goes to sleep, the mind stays up all night, telling itself stories.”— Jonathan Gottschall
“I may think of you softly from time to time. But I’ll cut off my hand before I ever reach for you again.”— Arthur Miller
‘No’ means no
‘I don’t know’ means no
‘I’m not ready’ means no
Silence means no
Crying means noConsent. Is. fucking. Required.
Your purpose in life is not to love yourself but to love being yourself.
If you goal is to love yourself, then your focus is directed inward toward yourself, and you end up constantly watching yourself from the outside, disconnected, trying to summon the “correct” feelings towards yourself or fashion yourself into something you can approve of.
If your goal is to love being yourself, then your focus is directed outward towards life, on living and making decisions based on what brings you pleasure and fulfillment.
Be the subject, not the object. It doesn’t matter what you think of yourself. You are experiencing life. Life is not experiencing you.
Thank you this is the first post about self love that hasn’t made me want to throw things
Mariah Carey and Patrick Swayze on Saturday Night Live on October 27, 1990.
“And I remember when Jenna walked in, I mean truly, you know, romantic comedy type of stuff, she walked in with a group of probably 12 people. As soon as she walked through the door I said, “That’s her. That’s how I envisioned it, I totally see that she’s right, so as long as she can, you know, put two words together she’s gonna get it.” And of course people were coming out saying she was great.
“Then it got three hours, four hours into the audition and I hadn’t gone in with her. I just knew, I said, “If I don’t go in the room with that girl, I’m not getting this part.” I was being paired with all these other actresses and things. So believe it or not all the other New York kids had left at the point, I was the only one left. And I wandered onto the set, ‘cause all the producers are hidden behind the walls, and I wander on the set. It was almost like Are You There God? It’s Me Margaret, I was like “I think someone forgot to tell me to go home, I’m gonna leave now.” Then a producer blew out of the door and said, “No no no, just wait one sec, one sec. No no, we didn’t forget, just wait one second.” And they walked in Jenna and they said, “Can you do just one more scene before you leave with this girl?” And my heart just exploded, I was so excited.
“We right from the beginning had such a blast and the truth is we did the audition at the desk, at her desk, and we were walking through the kitchen after that scene, through the kitchen where the sort of breakroom is that’s where we were all being held. And so on our way back to the break room I turned to her in the kitchen, I remember this vividly, and I said “You’re gonna get this part”. And she said, “Oh my God, that’s what I thought about you!”
“So when I got the call that I got the part, I did jump on the couch, I mean I full on jumped on the couch and freaked out. Then my first question was, “Did Jenna Fischer get the part?” Because if she got the part I thought, I know this sounds ridiculous, but if she got the part, me having done nothing major at that point, I said “This show could have a real shot”. And if she didn’t, I think we’re making the wrong show, that’s how vital she was to the show.”
(Interviewer: And they told you right away she had gotten it -)
“She did and yeah then she told me the story which is very sweet, she said ‘My first question was did John get it?’”
- John Krasinski recalling meeting and auditioning with Jenna Fischer, from The Hollywood Reporter Awards Chatter podcast
